What To Cover

There are lots of things that could and probably should be discussed, but it’s OK to just cover some... especially if these conversations are new to you and feel difficult.

  

There are many different ways to do this, there are no rules.

Sometimes taking a leap of faith to start a conversation brings a positively surprising response and you are likely to feel more and more at ease and comfortable.

 

When opportunities arise and the time feels right, you could jot your thoughts down in a notebook- even if it's a simple comment regarding cremation or burial.

 

Or, you might want to think about it in this more structured way:

 

Choices regarding your end of life might include:

  1. The type of care you’d like towards the end of your life and where you would like to die- these can be recorded as an Advanced Statement.

  2. How much active treatment you want and in what circumstances- these can be recorded as an Advanced Decision to Refuse Treatment or a Living Will. If this is signed and witnessed, it is legally binding.

  3. Whether you wish to refuse an attempt to be resuscitated based upon your health and well-being and your personal values, this is a Do Not Attempt To Resuscitate Order. Although ultimately a medical decision, it is important that you consider your wishes.

  4. Appointing a Lasting Power of Attorney to make decisions on your behalf about your health and welfare or your property and financial affairs.

  5. Your worries, fears and questions about being ill and dying: sometimes this is best addressed by your medical or care professional, but sometimes it just good to share these thoughts with family, friends and carers and/or a Compassionate Companion.

  6. Saying or writing down things that matter to those that matter to you, in a way that works for you. For some, this would be dealing with 'unfinished business', like resolving family tensions. This could be a letter, a poem, a song, a picture, an audio recording or a video. It might contain your feelings about a loved one, a review of your life or simply depict how you envisage your end of life.

Choices regarding what happens after you die, including:

  1. Organ donation – Things are changing from 20 May 2020 and you will need to opt out if you do not wish to donate your organs.

  2. Funeral arrangements: your will, including care of dependents, children or parents, or pet.

  3. Your digital legacy 

Our Resources page has all of the resources you need to record your wishes, including Advanced Statements, a Living Will, or your funeral plans. 

Designed by JMM, 2020.